Wednesday, April 27, 2005

Sweet Patootie Day

We marked twenty-four years of marriage yesterday. Not much of an accomplishment in many ways because the road of marriage has been a pleasure to me. The bumpy parts were times of grief over miscarriages, depression, death of parents and public misery but even those were shared so the bumps were bittersweet. We shared the bumps as lovers and friends with each other so the pain was not less but owned by two hearts.

There isn't a perfect relationship anywhere. When people comment on their marriages, even the good ones, they say something like, "It hasn't been perfect........" Of course it hasn't! It's goofy to expect relationships to be perfect and to grade ourselves next to perfection. Rather, has the relationship shown the grace to proceed through the loneliness and crap of life with sparks of joy and understanding?

I love the LH. Everyday I'm grateful for him. Without his humor, perspective and even temper, I'd be less of a person.

I salute my Patootie. May God grant us 24 more years together.

9 comments:

reverendmother said...

Happy anniversary!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for 24 years of love and grateful hearts and parenting and enduring and persistence and steadfast kindness.

When asked how life is as a minister's husband, I generally say: "I have gotten used to the preaching, but not all the commandments."

LH.

Friday Mom said...

Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!

PPB said...

congratulations!

the reverend mommy said...

Happy, happy day!

Marie said...

Happy anniversary and thanks for sharing such a wis post about what love is all about.

Songbird said...

Bless you both on your anniversary. I'll have to share LH's comment with my husband. :-)

Princess of Everything (and then some) said...

Congrats ~whispers~ I want someone to share the bumps with. I am happy for you.

Mary said...

Happy Anniversary! Blessings to you and your LH.

Next month will be exactly HALF as long for me and my hubby. 12 years. Bumpy at times, sure. But we strap each other in and hold each other tight and we're in it for the long haul. What a ride.